How to be Self Confident and Happy

Photograph by OLP Photography

Photograph by OLP Photography

Step #1: figure out who you are / what makes you happy

A key step in being happy is figuring out who you are, not who the world wants you to be. Try new things. Listen when your heart pulls you in a certain direction. Stop doing the things that make you unhappy, even if society tells you that it should be important to you.

Step #2: Create a mantra

This may sound cheesy, but science has shown that by repeating something everyday you can actually rewire the way your brain thinks. You can choose to look in a mirror or simply just say/think the phrase everyday or times when you’re feeling rough. Mine is something like I am capable, strong, and beautiful. I deserve to be treated with love and respect, especially from myself. Feel free to steal or modify it.

Step #3: Allow yourself to change and grow

We all change and grow over time. That’s just a part of being a human and learning from experiences. Sometimes, changing can be tough because those around you expect you to be the way you were in the past. That being said, it’s important for you to be true to yourself and be happy, rather than trying to stay static in order to make others happy. You will find people who respect you for who you are, and you may even be surprised by those that continue to stay at your side, regardless of how you change.

step #4: cut the people out of your life who cut you down

At some point in our life, we all have that friend who we kinda hate to be around because they actually make us feel like shit. Cut these assholes out and find people who will support you and build you up. Surround yourself with people who inspire you to be better, not those who make you want to crawl up and cry.

Step #5: stop caring about what everyone else thinks

We basically only have a maximum of a hundred years on this planet, and that’s kinda crazy. Why spend it worrying about what other people are going to think? Because at the end of the day, why should you care about people who make you feel like shit when you have friends who you care for and who in turn support you? They accept you, and isn’t that enough?

All my love,

Tala <3